April 12, 2019

It is difficult to get people to agree on the parameters of what we would define as "sexual health." Often it seems to go along the lines of whatever the person defining the concept is comfortable with themselves. This is even true in professional mental health circles...

April 5, 2019

One question I get a lot in my Sex Therapy practice is "how do I go about changing these things that bother me." Maybe it's unwanted thoughts that interrupt your flow when you're in the middle of love making. Maybe it's unwanted stereotypes or messaging you no longer w...

April 11, 2018

So, when we get married.... we don't often think about it this way.... but we've entered into a contract. A living arrangement contract. A financial contract. A legal contract. And most definitely a sexual contract.

What you say? You don't remember signing any such thin...

April 3, 2018


Pornography use in terms of the word “addiction” is a complicated and highly debated issue in the mental health arena. Currently, the leading Sex Therapy association that certifies therapists and educators, AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsel...

March 16, 2018

In no other area of life do we leave to chance what we are willing to do so with sex…

We want a better job… we ask for a promotion, go back to college or start our own business. We want a better physique… we start eating differently, join a gym or adopt a dog to walk ev...

March 5, 2018

Similar to last week's blog post... not only do a lot of entities weigh in on "who" gets to be sexy... but there is also a whole lot of weighing in on what gets to be considered a "successful sexual encounter."  What type of sex is the "right" kind of sex that I/we sho...

February 26, 2018

When we look at the baggage heaped upon us particularly from the media... as to what types of people and bodies "get to" be considered sexy... desirable... attractive... considered worthy to experience pleasurable sexual experiences... it's quite limiting.

FIT --- YOUNG...

February 21, 2018

Just as I addressed the Madonna-Whore complex in the last blog post, men also deal with binary messages that pits them in chronically unsuccessful positions.

On the one hand... men are given the cultural message that in order to be "masculine," they are supposed to be s...

February 9, 2018

Definitely in the “throw out of your suitcase” category are the many mixed messages women have received throughout millennia in what is commonly referred to as the “Madonna/whore” complex. 

This extraordinary binary between “seductress that will bring down entire civili...

February 2, 2018

Similar to the "sex is special" narrative... the "sex is bonding" story line is also one most of us grow up hearing. Or at least I hope you did. Because the alternative is usually some form of "sex is for procreation only." And that's definitely a sad story we want out...

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